This Valentine’s Going To Be Hard For You
Hard guy,
Hard girl,
“I don’t need a man” “I don’t need a woman”
“Relationships aren’t my priorities” “There are weightier things to invest my time in”
These have been your supposed mantras over the past year and you have stuck to them. Your IG & Twitter followers have come to know and love you for sticking true to what you believe. You are a happy, fulfilled and inspirational single pringle. Your friends have stopped asking about your love life because they have learnt from you and from the internet that it’s none of their business. Even when they think you’re getting close to that cute guy from work or catching feelings for that sweet girl you chat with all the time, they still don’t ask because fam, it’s 2020. Everyone is supposed to enjoy minding their business and letting others live their truths.
But no one knows that this your mantra is the ‘Fake it till you make it’ style. Even you don’t know that what you’ve been thinking, saying and preaching isn’t your reality yet. You’re still in the positive affirmation stage and darling, that’s not bad at all.
But that’s not going to excuse you from feeling left out when you see all the love that’s going to fly out on the 14th of February, because in your heart, you want a lover in your corner. You really want your own (durrrh. who doesn’t?). You are probably keeping an eye out for them but your magnificent list won’t let you rest. Your perfect partner doesn’t seem to be anywhere near you yet. You have a ton of things you want and a gazillion other things you don’t want. No one seems to suit your taste. to foot your bill. Well, this Valentine’s is going to be hard for you because people have learnt to go all out with their own love. Those who have made their choices to be with whom they want to be with are gonna be loud and in your face and darling, that’s not bad at all.
That shouldn’t make you feel like you’re not content with being single ‘cos you are, right?(El Oh El). You enjoy the deep friendships you have with people in your inner circle. You have some form of relationship even with distant friends. You have a few people around who have told you multiple times how much you inspire them and baby, they aren’t lying at all. You are truly an inspiration but this Valentine’s is still going to be hard for you.
Haq haq haq… *inserts ominous music*
You there, yes you! You in a Long Distance Relationship, this Valentine’s is going to be hard for you too. Your partner is out of town or the country and there’s no TLC coming your way this love season but you’ve got to prepare like the hard guys and girls. They are already chanting the positive affirmations and all -, you’ve got to be enough for yourself this Valentine’s valentine. I don’t care the plans you’ve made, you’d talk all day via video call or do 10 of the 100 things you read on that LDR blog, darling, it’s still going to be hard for you.
Boo isn’t here. Your friends are probably going to have fun with their own baes. You’re going to see pictures and videos. You are probably even helping a clueless friend plan a romantic valentine experience. You’re doing this and feeling good about it, which you should, you know? Your friend’s happiness should matter to you. But this isn’t going to erase the fact that this valentine is going to be hard for you. Maybe your single friends would allow you hang with them though.
It’s going to be hard for some married couples too. Yes, I said it! Your husband doesn’t care about it. While he was your boyfriend, he never did and you hoped that he would when he became a husband but news flash: he still doesn’t care about it. You care so much because your colleague’s sugar daddy is going to spoil her. How do you know this? He’s already spoiling her before the D-day. Your husband isn’t even engaging you in Valentine conversations and you know he doesn’t do surprise stuff so he isn’t planning shit. Well, ma’am; this Valentine’s going to be hard for you.
There’s another set of people who wouldn’t have a rosy Valentine’s, y’all stuck in those relationships that have ended a long time ago, You and your partner care differently about the relationship but you my dear have learnt the wherewithal to stick through the bad and the bad, you’re hellbent to make it work and darling, that’s not bad at all. Because one has to fight for love and love isn’t always sweet and fun, right? Sometimes love is hard. This Valentine’s gonna be hard too.
Only those who are truly content with the state of their love life and the person they are with are truly going to have a sweet Valentine’s; you see the rest of you, this Valentine’s going to be hard for you.
